Friday, December 21, 2018

Joy and Sorrow

The season of joy is almost upon us. A time of year we spend with family and friends. Fill ourselves with all kinds of cheer. Be it food or the warmth of time spent with people we love.

All the bright lights and festive ornaments decorating homes and yards. Snow covered trees after a fresh snowfall sparkling under the evening sky.

My favorite evenings were the moonlight nights in the country with the moonlight glistening on the frozen snow. Then looking across the fields to the farmhouse covered with Christmas lights. In the main window a sparkling Christmas tree with bows and baubles. You could feel the warmth of the season in the glow that shone through that wonderful window. The sounds of laughter drifting over the fields filling the night air with joy.

I have arrived at a time in my life when the holidays have started bringing me sorrow. I have been trying so hard to find the Christmas spirit. Trying to see the happiness in the season but all I have been feeling is sadness. I guess there is no joy in Joyville this year.

The children are all grown and I do get included but I feel like a fifth wheel at times. They all have their own likes, friends, and ways to welcome in the holidays. There are so many others in their lives, I am not needed anymore.

My family is all gone now. For the first time in a very long time, I feel very alone. I don't have anyone to share my thoughts and dreams with anymore. I do have friends but they have their own stories and new chapters to write. I can see the excitement as they look to their futures and what the joys of their families will bring.

As the 'big' night draws closer, my heart gets heavier. At times, breathing feels hard and harder. I almost feel chocked trying to take a deep breath. Physically I am fine, but emotionally I am at a saddening loss.

I miss the past and the joy the holidays always brought. I miss the excitement that grew in the season and the anticipation of the dawning of Christmas morning with the family. The smiles on everyone's faces and the aromas of those special breakfasts drifting through the home. Bits of merrily colored paper scattered all over this house and laughter filling the air.

With breakfast eaten and the morning dishes drying, my mom would start getting the best meal of the year ready for supper. Most of the things had either been homegrown or homemade. It was a wonderful day.

I remember curling up under the tree and rewatching the best of the Christmas season. I still love watching the old black and white movies with just the colored lights glowing in the background.

There is still a bit of time. I am hoping that I will rediscover the joy of the season. Fingers crossed lol.

Tuesday, November 27, 2018

Music

I have always enjoyed listening to music or at least having it playing in the background.

It is great to just have something in the background to blank out the nothingness of a quiet house. Or to drown out the sounds of city traffic. A familiar sound that wraps you into its warm embrace, evokes memories of the past or transports you to another time.

Recently I have had a music player as a companion most of my days. I don't necessarily listen to each note or lyric but it is there just waiting for me to pay attention again. Granted some of the playlists might even scare my children with their volume or orchestral content. I have several playlists that I have either created or found. They span the spectrum of genres and time.

Every now and again a lyric catches my attention. I am drawn to the time when I first heard it and what was happening in my small corner of the world. I will hear a phrase and am transported to a different time and place. A memory of my past.

I have had a tough few weeks and have had to respite of music-induced memories to help me through the worst of times.

Do you remember the song that was playing when you started high school? How about the song you first danced to? What about when you had your first kiss? The last song that played at your prom? When your spouse agreed to marry you? Was there a song on the radio when you found out you were going to have a family?

Without even trying I'll bet you heard a song or two in your mind when you read the above questions. I have always had music playing. It was a companion when I was alone or with a group of people. It filled the void that life sometimes creates. Not having it would be like losing a part of who I am.

Have you ever thought about the sounds that surround you daily, are they a part of you or just the noise of the world.

I have been transported to almost every part of my journey to becoming me in the past few weeks. It has been a wonderful trip filled with almost every emotion a person can feel but it has made me stronger and happier. Thank you to every artist that has ever created a lyric or keyed notes on a piano or strummed a tune on a guitar. You have been my companion and will continue to be for as long as I can hear.

Saturday, November 10, 2018

SC Day

Today is a great day. I don't have to work today. I don't have a care in the world today. I don't have to answer to anyone. It is a rare day.

So what do you do with a day without demands?  There is a new term I've been hearing - a day of self-care. I have wondered what my day would be like. Today will be my day to find out. Mainly cause I have no idea when a day like today will come again.

Going back to bed for a while after the dogs were out was my start. Going for a drive to nowhere. A strange thing - window shopping for myself. I usually shop for others or for things needed around the house. Did you know that there were stores filled with pretty things just for women? Jewelry stores filled with beautiful things just to wear for adornment that doesn't have to represent anything. I thought about maybe going to a hairdresser but there wasn't an appointment to be had LOL 

Lunch was treat time. Does chocolate cake count as a meal? It was fun to just have sweets without worrying about calories or someone else's judgment.  I might be too full for supper.

The afternoon will consist of laying around with a big bowl of popcorn and old movies. Sweatpants and an old, worn out t-shirt is the 'uniform' of the day.

Currently, the house is full of music, an eclectic mix of old rock, country and upbeat dance. Not sure anyone would want to listen to it but I am having fun dancing around.

Next time I will plan for my self-care day. Suggestions??

Friday, October 26, 2018

Doomed

Have you ever wondered where we, as a society, will be in ten years, or even five years.

I have the opportunity to be out an about a lot through my job and just going to the mall. I have always people watched, not due to any malicious or nefarious intent, I just find the world around me interesting. During the course of the day, I hear the most interesting chatter and complaints.

With what I see and hear I have come to the conclusion that we are doomed LOL. Most young adults can't seem to make logical leaps, or they don't want to open their eyes to a bigger picture. They seem overly concerned with themselves. How things affect just them, never mind their friends or co-workers.

Recently I had the displeasure of being party to a long-winded rant regarding not being personally informed of a time change for their work to start. The young man in question thought his boss should have texted him personally of the change. He didn't think it was his responsibility to double check his own work schedule. As the meet time had changed and he showed up at the previous meet time, he felt it was his right to get paid for the minimum work hours for the day, even though he couldn't be bothered to show up on time. It was someone else's fault, not his.

So let's look at this. He probably works with four or five other people. That, theoretically, would be only one of several crews working in a given day. Let's say there are five crews of five. Now that adds up to around twenty-five people to arrange work for. Add to this the task of texting each of them if there is a change in the original plan. Actually inviting them to show up and do the job they are being paid for. How many companies do you think would survive this extra strain being placed on their management? Not too many, unless they had a stockpile of managers.

I don't comprehend the difficulty in verifying start times the day before. It would be the same as making sure your clothes and anything else you require is ready to go. You can't assume that there will never be changes, life is full of changes!

I am sure if the schedule suddenly was empty for the next day, or next week, this individual would be looking at every place possible to find work to do. Perhaps double and even triple checking his schedule to see if there was anything added. He would also be the first to bemoan his employer for lack of pay at the end of the week.

If this is an example of what our society has become, we really are doomed.


Tuesday, October 02, 2018

Riddle Me This

What is it to be happy?

We hear the question all the time, are you happy? Have you ever thought about what is being happy?

Recently a friend was told that she is never happy, that she is doesn't know how to be happy, and that she is just getting through life. I really thought that was harsh and set out a find a way to help.

I thought the easiest way was to start was to define 'happy'. Well, after a few days, I realized that the word happy actually has no meaning except as a descriptive. It's a word we associate with joy or contentment. I looked up 'happy' in several dictionaries. It is an adjective, so not a descriptive at all.

Over my search, the best definition I found was "feeling or showing pleasure or contentment". Then I thought I would look up happiness, which is a noun defined as "the state of being happy". Back to the word 'happy', which doesn't mean anything ??

We might as well use the word 'bubble' in its place. But the word bubble actually means something lol.

I still don't know what 'happy' is supposed to mean. So, telling someone that they don't know how to be happy is a meaningless statement. It seems its only purpose was to cause more discomfort into a life that was already looking for purpose and stability.

The next time someone asks 'are you happy?', ask them what they mean by the question and walk away. If you can smile, once, during your day, consider it a win.

Saturday, September 15, 2018

Love-Hate

I have discovered that I now have a love-hate relationship with inanimate objects.

The ones I hate are ones I have never really liked but it a part of our everyday lives. You can't go anywhere without them being there. They are in our homes, in your vehicles, in malls and restaurants. At home, over time I have downsized them and only placed them where necessary.

Recently I had to spend time in a hotel room, they are everywhere! In the bathroom, which is common but wall to wall over the counter, they covered the closet doors and then a full length one in the main room. Yuk lol

So, what have I come to hate instead of just dislike - mirrors. As far back as I can remember I have disliked the way I look. Whether it be my weight, my height, my eyes or my hair, I don't like what looks back at me from a mirror. Then there is the old adage that mirrors lie. Does that mean that the image is actually better or worse than what I see? Never did figure that out.

Growing up I was always both taller and bigger than the norm. The charts that created the norm were set by age. Every time I went for a physical I was told I was overweight. It got to the point that I stopped caring and started eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. I stopped most physical activity. I didn't see the point as no matter what I had done in the past I was always told I failed.

Recently I made some changes to my diet and I'm trying to get my activity level back up. I bought a bathroom scale and then started actually stepping on it. All the articles I read said to always use the same scale to track your weight.

My scale has now become my friend. I have started to look forward to my check-in with it. The numbers have gone down, not always, but mostly. So, it has become the inanimate object I love.

While I was at the hotel I could not help seeing my reflection in the overabundance of mirrors. I do not like what I saw. I am feeling better every day but my shape still upsets me. I can home and checked in with my scale. Numbers went down again, which was good. I need to reshape me so I can stop avoiding mirrors and cameras. Pictures are also on my 'no' list lol.

Tuesday, September 04, 2018

Vacation Over

Okay, so vacation might not be the right word. I didn't go any place but after a couple of conversations with a friend, I was convinced that I needed a break from .. well .. me.

Through the years my view on people, in general, has become 'jaded'. I was always looking for the darkness, the lies. Yes, I guess cynical would be the correct word. My trust has been betrayed too many times to count. It became easier to get through days expecting the worst, anticipating the worst, and not being surprised when it arrived.

I kept as much of this as I could inside but some days it leaked out. I fear I have passed on my cynicism to my children. Somedays I was seeing it in them. That always bothered me and I tried to change my views. I think that would work, for a while but then the darkness would come back.

So, for a few weeks, I threw caution to the wind and opened myself to accepting what I saw, heard and/or read at face value. Accepting what I was told as the truth, no matter what. I did learn the meaning of seeing things through 'rose-colored glasses'.

I was open to new forms of making friends, meeting people in different ways. I even accepted 'friend' requests over a chat platform or two. I made myself believe what I was told, accept it at face value.

It was fun for a while, but my mind started peaking around the glasses. "Hey, wait a sec, they said this the other day" thoughts. I tried to brush it off, blamed it on a faulty memory. Well, I was told for years that I had a bad memory. That what I was sure I remembered was wrong. I let things continue but then there came a point when I couldn't ignore my instincts.

I did some research and re-read logs, that I always keep. My instincts were right. LOL people who lie need to keep notes so they can keep their stories straight. In just a week their place of birth changed from one country to another. Height was a zigzag. I could go on but needless to say, truth and honesty don't seem to exist.

It was an interesting 'vacation' that I am glad I took but, very happy to be back from :)

I learned that my cynicism and skepticism are useful parts of who I am. Also, that maybe I should tone it down because I did meet a few new friends. So I will try to remain more open and tolerant. To look at things with an open mind and stop always searching for the lies.

Maybe my world got a little brighter, or at least bigger :)

Have a good day. Smile at a stranger. Try for happy instead of just alive.

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

I am good ....

I don't know where this was originally posted or by who. It was shared with me and I thought I would share it here. If you know who to credit, please let me know and I'll add a full credit line. Thx



Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Night-Muse

Have you ever thought of what night is or what it means to you? 

Have you ever considered what night really is and why, as children, we think everything is hidden in the night? 

We are told that most things to be feared are hidden in the dark of night.

Again, welcome, to the night, to the absence of light, the absence of color, the absence of the 'reality' we live with during the day. Let the night wrap you in its embrace of endless possibilities and endless reality.

I welcome the setting of the sun, the decreasing brilliance of colors as they fade to shades of grey. I enjoy the absence of distractions caused by tricks of light, glimmers, reflections, and refractions. The escape to the endless possibilities of the universe. 

The answers to questions that elude us during the day become crystal clear when the outside world is effectively turned off and our minds are free to explore all facets of the question.

Where will this night take us? What will we be able to create before dawn? Perhaps we can find the path to bring the night peace through to the day.



Wednesday, August 08, 2018

The A Side

No matter where you go or what you do there are always two sides to your day. In recent times the B side has seemed to be playing in the forefront, over and over again.

Today I decided that the A side needed to play more frequently and definitely louder. It needs to be the star of the show, just as it used to be on 45s.

It was a sunny, hot day that did get a tad wet. But the plants needed the moisture so they could grow stronger towards the life-giving sun. I had the pleasure of spending time with my girls and working in the yard. We now have a solid plan on how to improve the yard so we can spend more time outdoors.

Hopefully, weather allowing, we will be able to have a BBQ/picnic this weekend. We made a list of foods we wanted to enjoy and decided who would make what.

Need to create a playlist that we can all agree on. That is going to be an interesting challenge as we all have different tastes in music.

Had a great afternoon reorganizing my bedroom to be more comfortable. Perhaps instead of a bedroom, I should rename it a relaxation space. A quiet room to watch old movies, curl up with an old friend, better known as a good book. I love reading because you can lose yourself in another era of a well-written story.

Tomorrow is going to be a great day. No, I don't know what will happen but it will be an A-side day, one way or another :)

Tuesday, August 07, 2018

Trust

How do you learn to trust again?  I am not talking about everyone but someone you used to deeply trusted. Once that trust is betrayed is there any way to trust again?

I always try to be a truthful person and I expect the same in return. I know there are times when not everything can be disclosed for one reason or another. The question "what did you get me for Christmas?" will never get a straight answer. Unless it is just "a present". At times, work related questions cannot be totally answered honestly.

I was lied to, repeatedly, by someone I formerly had complete faith in. There was no reason for the lies except to not tell the truth.

Now I am expected to continue the relationship as if nothing had happened. As if the breach of trust had never occurred.

Sitting across a table, having a meal and trying to carry on an everyday conversation was the most difficult experience I have had in recent memory. I found myself wondering if anything I was hearing was the truth or a fabrication. I didn't know how to answer the most simple questions as I wondered if what I was saying was going to be used against me.

I really want to trust again, not trusting is exhausting. I am not sure who can believe. If what I am being told, is the truth. I still have some people I trust but the wound from this betrayal has scared my soul.

So, back to the original question, how can I trust this person again? Or, should I just walk away and just keep the memories of the past as my only connection?

Monday, August 06, 2018

Facts On Potatoes

Throughout North America, potatoes are the most popular vegetable, even being ahead of other well-known vegetables such as lettuce and onions.  You can cook potatoes in a variety of ways, and they are usually included in one out of three meals eaten by almost all North Americans daily.  When they are prepared in a healthy way, a potato can be an excellent source of energy. It also packs a big nutritional punch.

Like oranges, potatoes are very high in vitamin C. The fact is, one medium potato contains 45% of the vitamin C that's recommended for good health. Potatoes are also high in fiber and carbohydrates and contain more potassium than a banana.

A potato is naturally low in calories and contains no fat, sodium, or cholesterol.  The skins of the potatoes provide a helpful dose of fiber, iron, potassium, calcium, zinc, phosphorus, and several B vitamins.

If at all possible, you should avoid putting potatoes in the refrigerator or freezing them. The cold will turn the potato starch into sugar and cause them to turn dark when they are cooked.

When you store potatoes, keep them in a cool, dark place. Too much light will cause them to turn green. You can store them in the basement if you have one, it is the best place to keep potatoes.

From mashed potatoes to baked potatoes, a potato is something we all know and love. They are served with many different tasty foods, and they provide our bodies with plenty of healthful benefits.  We all eat potatoes, some of us even grow our own.  Whether you grow your own or buy them, the potato is the one vegetable that makes everything just a little bit better.

Sunday, August 05, 2018

Leftovers - yay or nay

Using leftovers is important for any food budget. If you plan in advance to use the leftovers you create, you won't waste food and can likely double how long your food lasts. Also, by using the leftovers to make quick meals, you can save time on busy days.

Using leftovers in the most budget-friendly way means that you should know what you're cooking, when you're cooking it, how to store it best, and what you will do with the leftovers and when. So, if you're making pizza tonight, you might want to save some of the sauce, roll up leftover slices and have pizza dip tomorrow for lunch.

Some things make great leftovers just as they are. But the truth is, if you transform your leftovers based on a plan, you can make meals that do not seem like leftovers at all. For example, if you make rice tonight for dinner, it's best eaten like it is because it's fresh, fluffy, and delicious. Tomorrow it will be hard and will not have the same texture. But the new texture is perfect for stir-fry. Throw your leftover rice in a pan with a bunch of veggies, a squirt of sesame oil, shredded leftover chicken and it'll seem as if this is a brand-new meal.

The foods that you want to be leftovers are foods that improve their flavor and texture over time. This is true of soups, stews and it's also true of spicy dishes which get spicier with time. If you know your ingredients, you can know exactly how to reuse them when you cook with them.

When you store your leftovers, the best way to ensure that you're going to use them is to label them. For example, if you're saving rice for stir-fry, put on the label, "rice for stir-fry". Include the date so that you know when you need to use it by. 

Each type of leftover has a storage method. For example, when it comes to beans and grains you should freeze them. This works great for beans since it's less expensive to make beans yourself than buy them in a can. But, if stored incorrectly they can become mushy. Drain them and rinse them before storing. Then you can simply take them out of the freezer and toss into your recipes.

Leftovers vegetables are almost always good in soup. Leftover broccoli can easily become a delightful creamed soup. Just throw the broccoli in a blender with almond milk, butter, and use leftover cooked onions to give it even more flavor. Add salt and pepper to taste. Heat on the stovetop, grab some bread or rolls and enjoy a fast meal.

Another great thing to do with almost any type of leftovers is to combine them into a wrap. Get a flour tortilla (or lettuce leaves) and add leftover meat, veggies, rice, beans, add some salsa, you've got an easy meal - all from leftovers.

Casseroles are one-pan dishes that just need a bit of creativity. Mixing any type of starch, protein, veggies, and cheese, with a crunchy topping of breadcrumbs will almost always be good.

If you want to do better with leftovers, think of them during your meal planning. Think about what you're cooking, and plan for using the leftovers in the meal the following evening or for a quick take-along lunch. If you plan it right, you can cook once, then eat two or three times - saving time, electricity, and your sanity.

Saturday, August 04, 2018

ummm .. .. joking

Welcome to the era of 'I can say whatever I want' - and erase it with "It's a Joke" or "I was joking" or plain and simple "Jokin'".

Reality check - once you have said it, it can not be taken back. You can't hit a magic button that rewinds time. Just because a thought pops into your mind, does not make it something that needs to be said out loud. It seems we have turned into a society of mindless, unthinking, uncaring idiots. More and more I hear 'joking' at the end of a sentence - after a few second pause that is - followed by a giggle or nervous smile. I guess after hearing what they just said, the next thought is 'oops, did I say that?' and the automatic response is 'joking'. That doesn't fix anything, it doesn't remove the hurt caused, or the embarrassment caused to either side. 

Freedom of expression is one thing but you still have to think before you speak. Once it is out there, it is out.


Take responsibility for your words as well as your actions.


Friday, August 03, 2018

Parts of the Circle

There is a missing piece, again, in my life. We all start with a circle full of parts to make a whole. As we grow we have the privilege of adding more pieces. Some only stay for a short while because they are just passing through our lives. They are there to add emotions to our circle. Be they positive or negative they are the parts that help us grow up. Help us learn to be the people we are meant to be.

Once we start walking in our own shoes and making our own choices, life opens up all kinds of doors. Places we go, things we do and the people we love. The ones we love add to the circle, add to the wholeness of who we are.

As our walk through life continues, and we get further from our beginning, we start losing pieces. Some of the pieces can never be replaced. They leave us with a hole where they used to be. We have the memories and the stories and the warm feelings just thinking of them. As time passes the hole gets easier to live with but never goes away.

I have lost a lot of pieces over the years. Some of the temporary pieces are forgotten unless triggered by memory. But the hole caused by important pieces are always there. They stay with you, walk with you and still try to help you along the way.

Recently I lost another piece. This piece will leave a different kind of hole in my circle. It is still there but no longer an active part of my life. It left without looking back. It tore away parts that are bleeding and will bleed for a long time. This is a new type of pain I am not sure how to go on with. But, from this loss, I hope I will eventually recover. The damage is done, it can't be repaired.


Thursday, August 02, 2018

7 Peculiar Uses For Pepper

I found this wonderful article at http://www.myfamilysurvivalplan.com/7-peculiar-uses-for-pepper/

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Pepper is a wonderful spice and a well-known ingredient that no respectable household, restaurant or fast food joint can do without. It’s probably the second most used seasoning (second to salt) and it originates from plants included in the Piperaceae family. The common pepper dust or beads come from the plant’s fruits, which are dried, crushed in a fine and spicy dust or simply used whole; the whole dried fruit is known as peppercorn. The usage of pepper in both gastronomy and medicine dates back since antiquity. The term “pepper” is derived from the Dravidian term pippali, which was later turned into peperi by the romans; the used peperi for both the black pepper and the long pepper. In today’s modern languages, the term shifted into pfeffer(German), poivre (French), pepe (Italian), piper (Romanian) and of course pepper(English). What gives pepper its bite is a chemical called piperine.

Pepper has a long established reputation in the kitchen, but having some around can solve a lot of problems around the house. There are many unusual uses for pepper which will give great results. Here’s what you can use it for:

1. Keep ants away
Ants are naturally attracted by sugar compounds, so as long as you give them a reason, they’ll come invading your kitchen or wherever else they might find something sweet to take back to the colony. If you have some pepper in hand, you can sprinkle it every here and there, where you might think I’d get in the ant’s way. If the ants encounter pepper along their trail, they’ll most likely g thrown off and they’ll turn back.
2. Keep garden parasites at bay
Your garden won’t be safe until you take some measures. Your plants are in danger ever since they begin sprouting; as soon as they’re out, there are all sort of bugs that are ready to feast on the fruits of your labor. To keep these pesky parasites away, just mix black pepper and flour (equal parts) and sprinkle the mixture around the plants.
3. Keep away squirrels from the bird feeder
If you have a squirrel problem around the bird feeder, you can solve it by simply adding some cayenne pepper. Sprinkle the spice around the feed, and you won’t see squirrels around ever again. This won’t bother the birds that have a natural tolerance for the pepper; not only won’t they feel it, but the high amounts of vitamin A found in the pepper will also improve their plumage.
4. Brighten the colors of your clothes
If you wish to keep you clothes looking like new as long as possible or simply bring back to life some of the older clothes with faded colors, you don’t need any fancy and expensive products to get the job done. If you have some pepper around the house, just add a teaspoon of the spicy dust to the wash. The pepper thrown in the mix will keep bright colors as strong as ever and will prevent them from running too.
5. Migraines
If you find yourself having a strong headache for no apparent reason, some are claiming that pepper can save the day. Just get a regular glass of water and add half a teaspoon of pepper, mix it up good and drink the concoction. If you have a smaller glass, ¼ teaspoon of pepper will suffice. If in 40 minutes time you have had no results, repeat the procedure.
6. Clear up your sinuses
If you’ve caught a nasty cold or if your sinuses are acting up, you may be able to ease up the situation by adding some extra pepper you or meals. However, if you’re intolerant to spicy food, there’s another solution for your problems: you can get eucalyptus drops and mix them up with liquid pepper; put them in the steamer and they’ll do wonders for your clogged sinuses in no time at all.
7. Detoxify the liver
If you’ve been having liver problems lately or if simply you want to give your liver a hand, you’ll need to mix up the following in a small glass: 1 cup of flat, filtered water; 1 entire lemon (or lime) squeezed; 1 teaspoon of maple syrup (or other natural sweetener) and ¼ teaspoon of cayenne pepper. You should have this drink every morning, before breakfast.
Thanks to its natural properties, the common pepper s far more than a simple food spice. It can be used as a pest repellant, as a fabric brightener and even as a natural remedy for various afflictions. Having some around the house can be very convenient if you should ever find yourself in the need for any of its uses.
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Wednesday, August 01, 2018

Opinions

Until recently I was bombarded with negative opinions regarding a common acquaintance. I didn't have the opportunity to work closely with this person. Very rarely was there anything positive said. The characteristics offered were usually "stubborn", "won't take direction", "has to do things their way", "will not listen", and "has to argue about everything". No matter what I believed, it was hard to not to listen to all the negatives and have them creep into my thoughts and, I'm ashamed to say, beliefs.

A fortnight ago several things changed, this acquaintance and I started working together and spending a lot more time together. What I have discovered is that all the negative opinions and comments were wrong! The person in question has a wonderful, quick mind. They can create solutions for either simple or difficult problems 'on the fly'. A wonderful trait that allows work to be finished in a timely manner with, usually, better than expected results. They are open to suggestions and willing to try doing things a new way.

Recently we came upon a dilemma that did not seem to have a solution. Two days of trying solution after solution that failed, we thought we were at an impasse and would have to scrap the project we had been working on so diligently. We were both disappointed and called it a day. The next morning, after being held up with meetings, I arrived to find the project complete. The solution had presented its self while I was away. We spent the rest of the day celebrating :)

How many times do we hear an opinion in a week? How many times is it about someone we only remotely know or don't see very often? Do you believe all the opinions? How much do you trust the source? Should you trust the opinion of others?

"I heard that ......." please fill in your own negative gossip. Is this what we really should be basing our opinion of others on? Have you ever stopped to wonder what those same opinionated people are saying about you? If they can malign one person, what stops them from doing the same to others.

If someone new comes into your life, form your own opinion. If you do hear something, anything takes it with a grain of salt. Leave your mind open and form your own opinion. That new person could turn into a best friend, a wonderful employee or a companion that will fulfill a gap in your life.

Monday, July 30, 2018

Time in Life .. .. ..

There comes a time in life when you must walk away from all
the pointless drama and people who create it and surround yourself
with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus on the good. 


Life is too short to be anything but happy.

Sunday, July 29, 2018

"I don't regret my past, I just regret the time I've wasted on the wrong people." - Unknown

This quote got me thinking. Do I really regret anything from my past? The people, the places, the 'roads not taken' or the roads that were taken, how did they affect who I am today?  I can look back and see clearly the crossroads at each critical point in my past. I know the results of the paths I choose and the people that I spent my time with.

What if I would not have moved to western Canada? What if I had spent more time studying? What if I had seen the value of attending college and then University right after high school? What if I had been a better judge of character? What if I had moved to a different province when the opportunity arose? Who would I be today?
I know where I am right now. I know what I wish was different. I know who I would like to have back in my life. I also know who I am glad is no longer in my life. I can look back with both joy and sadness at all the time that has past before this very moment.

Regret - it is not a valid way to spend time. I will admit that I am not proud of all the decisions I made but I do not regret them. Every bump, every decision, every person I met, every job I accepted or rejected brought me here. Right here.

I have a family that I love. Sure, there are things that could be better, things that I 'wish' I had but do I regret the road that brought me here, no. The roads that I took gave me my children. If one thing was changed in my past, from the people I interacted with to the places I traveled, I might not have one or more of my children.
They complete my days and fulfill my spirit.

If regret has to enter into my life, it is not due to the people I spent time with, but that I don't have more to give.

Saturday, July 28, 2018

How Would You Answer?

Spent a lovely afternoon with friends from years gone by. Some I hadn't seen for decades. It was wonderful just to sit around the table and share stories of times when we were all together planning to conquer our futures.

Learning that through the years our paths had almost crossed numerous times was the most interesting part. One friend had arrived in Edmonton just days before I moved to British Columbia. Another had been living in North Vancouver while I was just south of the city.

Through the luncheon, I kept hearing "if only I had done ____ instead of ______, things would have been so much different" or "if I had gone (here) instead of (there)". I was surprised at the sounds of regrets I heard in their voices at times.

They all seemed happy with where they were in their lives today. Happy with their families and who their children had grown up into. Proud of where life had brought them. I am sure there were things that were of a darker nature that were not mentioned. Shadows that clouded chapters of their lives.

An afternoon with old friends is not the place to relive dark chapters and sadness. It is always a time to shine, share the sunshine and laugh with the people who you started your adventure with.

Afterward, I kept thinking of the "if only's" I had heard. It got me thinking about my own "if only's". Choices I had made and what would have happened if I had taken another path.

I stopped and thought about what I have and where I am. I thought about what I wouldn't have if I had done somethings differently. Would I have my children? Would I have been able to spend those last few years of my Mother's life with her?

I like where I am right now. Taking time to look back there were a lot of "Y"s in the path but I chose my path, at the time, and arrived where I am. What if's serve no actual purpose, except to create regrets. If I had taken other paths, I would not be here right now, or maybe I would be?

So, how would you answer the "what if I had _________" question? Do you regret the paths you have taken? Do you like who you are right now?

If you don't like where you are, or who you are, what are you going to do to change? Looking back into the shadows of the past won't help. Go forward into the sunlight and make your future bright.

Friday, July 27, 2018

Steps in a Day

Have you ever thought of how many steps there are in every day? Oh, I don't mean physical steps, even though those are important too. Along with the steps are the choices we make for which path we take.

Think about it for a minute, when you wake up, are you going to get up or do you roll over? Once you are up, make a full breakfast or grab toast and coffee? What are you going to wear for the day? Formal or casual?

All these can be considered steps. All the choices can be called paths. In a day, how many paths do we pick?

When you think about the things we do every day, throughout the week, every week, how many are things we do out of habit? How much of our day do we spend on autopilot?

Maybe tomorrow, start the day by thinking about how wonderful the day will be. Stop and really taste your breakfast. Take a moment and look out a window. Start your day by taking a few minutes for enjoyment. Enjoyment of having another day to walk through. Whether you take ten seconds or ten minutes, take the time to smile.

Thursday, July 26, 2018

Milestone Reached

Today was my celebration day, yup it was my Birthday LOL. I am another year older, not sure about the wiser 😏.

It was a very peaceful day, which started with breakfast with my daughter. It was a relaxed meal as neither of us had to run off for work, so we got to enjoy the meal and catch up. After we went for a spot of shopping before we went our separate ways.

The afternoon was spent with another daughter wandering through stores just looking. I had a few small things that I needed to pick up but the rest of the time we just snooped. There are so many things new that to me seem redundant. It seems there are a lot of companies that produce products to make our lives easier. Most of the 'gadgets' I saw today, I found a waste of money. I think easier is equivalent to spend more and get more clutter. The cost of a 'gadget' to cube garlic was ridiculous. I good sharp knife, which has numerous uses, would do the job better and probably faster.

By the end of the afternoon, we were both hot and sticky. It was a very humid day. Even though we had plans on what to make for supper, take out was the winner. We found chicken and wedge potatoes that fit the bill perfectly.

The end of the day was celebrated with a small chocolate cake and ice cream. No big bands. No fussy parties. No entertaining that usually causes a big mess to clean up. Just a simple meal followed by a gateau and ice cream.

Tomorrow starts a new year of highs and lows. (We need to lows to recognize the highs). I don't know what the year will bring but it will arrive day by day. I guess how we deal with each day will make the year interesting. It will also add to the chapters of the novel we each write with our lives.


I Admit It

Last night a wrote a post for this blog. As is my habit, I always re-read what I write before I hit the 'Publish' button. After I finished writing, I took a break away from the computer, thankfully I did too. The post was so full of negativity, re-reading it upset me.

So, then I decided to replace things that were negative with 'bleep'. LOL, the post then looked more like .. ...

bleep, bleep, bleep, bleep, bleep, .. .. well you get the idea. I really don't want the negativity of life to be recorded here and to be looked back on in the future. We need to move forward, not dwell in 'what ifs' and 'if that had been different' thoughts. Once something is said or done, it has been said and done. Can't go back, can't push replay, no do-overs.

You can regret words and actions but there really is no way to erase any of it. So, think before you speak or take any action.

I admit that negatives enter my life, but I try not to share them. Just need to move past them.


Wednesday, July 25, 2018

To start the Day

The day started wonderfully with an outdoor breakfast. One of my daughters will be traveling abroad so we had a quiet gathering before she had to leave. Everyone had what they liked to eat instead of making a lot of food - with half of it either going in the fridge or the dogs getting a second meal (I am sure they would have loved that idea).

It was nice to just sit together and enjoy nature. To talk and laugh without worrying if there was enough of anything and was there enough for everyone to eat. I think it is how a breakfast gathering should be.

I remember when I was growing up having breakfast outside at our summer house. Often we would have company and my mother would be up early to start 'fussing' over breakfast. Eggs, bacon, sausages, pancakes, toast (by the loaf) and an array of fresh fruits. They were all prepared by her loving hands. But, by the time she finished cooking and getting everything on the table, most were finished eating and she would be left to eat alone. She loved entertaining but it always made me sad to see her eating alone after all her hard work.

Once I was old enough to start helping with the preparations, I would 'shoo' her outside and take care of the finishing touches. It was wonderful to see her sitting at the table with everyone, smiling. I would peek out the window, which served as a pass-through, to make sure nothing was lacking. There were times when she would try to come back into the kitchen, dad started side-tracking her while I got more fruit or toast or coffee ready.

This morning brought back so many wonderful memories of those breakfasts. I am still smiling as I am writing this post. It will definitely be added to my 'happy memories' file 😄.

The surprise of the meal was an early birthday gift. A SodaStream just for me 😍  I have been looking at buying one for about a year but with so many other things needed, it was always put on the 'to get list'. Well, now I have one. I will have to go shopping for flavors now 😉.


Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Day One

Okay, so the title is not original - lol. This is the beginning of a new blog and hopefully a new future.

I have many thoughts that I will share with whoever happens upon this blog. I read several blogs, not necessarily daily but quite often. I have found that other peoples opinions are interesting and lead to further thought on topics. I like getting the opportunity to expand my view on daily life.

You have to be willing to listen (read) what others are thinking and see if their opinions conflict or agree with your own. Now, if it is conflicting, which opinion is more valid. Which is the road to clarity? Who's opinion carries more validity? If you find that your outlook has been formed by erroneous ideas, are you willing to accept that you were wrong? 

This is how we grow as people and humans and a society. We allow our eyes to be opened, to see with a new vision. We are willing to learn something new.

So, with that, I will end this roving first post.

Have a great day :)